How to Stay Romantic After You Are Married?

Marriage is one of the hardest yet most blissful unions you could ever embark on in life. After being married for several years, and after the children come along, it can be hard to rekindle that old flame. Romance can fizzle and going through the daily routine can become more mundane than enjoyable. So how does one put the romance back into a marriage?

One of the most common complaints among women is that they do not feel special anymore. After a woman has been up all night with the children and cleaned the house, done the dishes and laundry, she hardly feels romantic. The clue for the man is to make the woman feel special. While most schedules are truly chaotic, make at least an hour an evening for each other. After the children go to bed, talk and laugh together. There are many things to talk about like the day, and it may be fun to revisit past history together. Make time for each other is the first and foremost way to put romance back in marriage.

When most marriages begin, there is usually some sort of romance. Revisit ancient history and begin writing love letters and poems again. A lady can slip a love letter into a briefcase or a man can tuck one into her purse. Just when the other person is in the middle of their day finding a love letter can bring a smile to their face. Remember how things were when you were dating. By doing some of the things that the other person loved during that time, it is possible to encourage and strengthen the romance between each other again.

Gifts are always a nice touch to show how much someone means. Try sending flowers to the wife, or the wife can send a singing telegram to the husband. Most people just need something to break up the routine of the daily grind and show how important they are. Every time a wife looks at her flowers she will think of her husband. Sometimes it is just the little things that mean so much.

The best way to bring romance back to a marriage is by having a date night. Hire a sitter, if necessary and slip away to dinner and a movie. Enjoy time together holding hands and snuggling. It is easier to talk and laugh when the children are not present and the stress from life has been put on hold. Visit an old spot where you first fell in love, or start new traditions. By having a special night that is dedicated just to the two of you, each partner will have something to look forward too. Dating is the perfect way to ensure a marriage stays romantic.

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Moon and Moonlight Are Two Separate Things (Exclusive Advice for Women)

Women always want their marital life to be beautiful like the moon. But, they don't understand that moon and moonlight are two separate things. The moon without a moonlight is like a book without words... It's the moonlight which makes the moon beautiful.

Your married life is also like a moon. If you want to make your married life beautiful then you need to scatter the beautiful moonlight on it. And, it's in your power. You have to understand your power, and you need to use it properly.

Here I am telling you 3 exclusive steps which will make your man fall in love with you and help you to scatter moonlight of happiness in your relationship.

Step 1: Don't Play Hard to Get, Play Hard to Forget

Often enough, some women tend to make terrible mistakes in their marital life, unconsciously. They believe that the rules of dating life can be applied in marital life too. And, on this thinking, they keep up like a mountain and put their future at stake.

When you play hard to forget, you play a key role in enhancing your marital life happiness. You attract your husband and engage with him on an emotional level. You occupy his mind and heart. You become a valuable asset of his life.

Some people say that men are fond of changes. But, I do disagree with this statement. Because, there are some things which make men happy when they are repeated again and again. Those things are the fundamental needs of men. If I tell you, they are like a tree trunk. If you'll keep the tree trunk strong, then the flowers of love will always shower on you from its branches.

"For being unforgettable, you have to satisfy his eyes, his heart, and his belly." In other words,

1) You have to wear what he loves,

2) You have to be a great cook.

3) You have to give him outstanding sex.

These three things are the fundamental needs of every man. When you repeat these three things again and again, your man stays happy. He doesn't forget you. You always stay in his mind and heart. And, he finds every possible reason in order to stay with you.

Step 2: Look For New Ways to Love Him

After meeting the primary needs of your man, this 2nd step will scatter the moonlight of happiness in your relationship. You'll frequently take a shower in that moonlight, and people will envy you.

When we see the same food again and again in our plate, the food appears disgusting. We try to get other types of food. Even we get ready to eat those foods which we normally don't eat. The condition of a man is like a plate. When he gets the same environment repeatedly, he gets bored. His heart and mind starts to run on a specific boring pattern and stops flourishing.

Constantly changing environment keeps his heart and mind active. Every little change motivates him and keeps his feelings dynamic; he engages with you on an emotional level.

Here I want to clear one thing, no major changes are necessary. Even small changes are enough to make the love of your relationship exclusive. All you need is to look for new ways to love him. For example: Sleep in his shirt, dance in flower fields with him, paint each other, offer up a massage, smell the flowers, kiss him before he finishes his sentence, or tell him unique stories of your daily life.

When you love your man with new small methods, he always looks at you with love. He feels relaxed in your presence. He runs towards you for being happy. In a way, you become his most important need.

Step 3: Focus on the Pattern, Not the Person

Several times misunderstandings are embedded inside a person to such an extent that he loses his happiness with his own hands. Especially, in married life, we are committed to this kind of mistake. We examine our partners through our own eyes only and find many errors in them.

It's always been our endeavor to turn our partner into our favorite personality. In this endeavor, we continue to see our marital life getting ruined.

I know that every person has some mistake. Therefore, I thought that it's necessary to speak on this issue. Because, this is an issue where women generally make mistakes. If you want to change any habit of your husband then first stop correcting him. Because, like this, you invade his ego.

If you want to change your man, focus on changing your daily life pattern. This simple method will change your husband in such comfortable way that you'll be shocked.

For example: If your husband doesn't take interest in you, you should change your daily life patterns and activities. Wear new colors, change your clothing style, try to make new dishes, change the time you eat, change your daily routine, use candles, or have new hobbies. When you change your daily life patterns, everything goes in your favor - your husband changes automatically.

"If you want to see the immediate effect of this tip, just change your hair style - you'll see a gleam of love in his eyes for you."

Take Action:

In order to scatter the moonlight of happiness and love in your relationship, take these three steps immediately.

Step 1: Don't Play Hard to Get, Play Hard to Forget... Always wear what he loves, be a great cook, and give him outstanding sex. These three things are the fundamental needs of men.

Step 2: Look For New Ways to Love Him... Sleep in his shirt, dance in flower fields with him, paint each other, offer up a massage, smell the flowers, kiss him before he finishes his sentence, or tell him unique stories of your daily life.

Step 3: Focus on the Pattern, Not the Person... Wear new colors, change your clothing style, try to make new dishes, change the time you eat, change your daily routine, use candles, or have new hobbies. Most importantly, "Change your Hair Style Now!"

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Vibration Excuses

To be perfectly clear, I do know for sure I am a powerful creator and I am responsible for my entire experience. I get it. I really do. Knowing that is the magic for a deliberate creator. However, at times it's a double edged sword because when something goes sideways most deliberate creators have a tendency to want ponder the question, "how or why did I attract this?". A little bit of self reflection can be a very good thing, maybe. Too much of a good thing can be punishing.

Recently I had a run of what some people might think was "bad luck". Of course we know better. First we discovered that a large portion of the back of our house was rotted. There's a pretty long back story on that, but the back story didn't matter. The rotten boards didn't care. It had to be fixed and it looked like thousands of dollars of damage. Trust me, I did some focusing on that. A few days later, plumbing problems. Two days after that the refrigerator died on the spot. The next day, a cataclysmic technology meltdown.

I'm not a law of attraction newbie. I get how this chain of events happened. But you know what, thinking about how it happened can be a trap. Beating myself up for not managing my vibration, for even 17 seconds activates a future possibility I'm not interested in. Truth of the matter is, when something goes wrong most deliberate creators will spend a lot more than 17 seconds beating themselves up. Some will think about it in the name of taking responsibility for their creation. No matter why we do it, if we're doing it for more than 16 seconds we are activating the vibration of more of what we don't want. When I'm beating myself up for what went wrong I'm losing the moment of NOW and now is the moment of power.

Sometimes I need to lighten things up so I can get clear of the mess. So, sometimes I need an excuse to let myself off the hook. When the going gets rough and I need to get on with it quickly, here are a few I routinely pull out.
Ooops. I bumped into someone else's vibration when I was temporarily not strongly enough aligned to hold mine. Silly me. Move on.Ooops. When I was watching the news the other night I temporarily dipped down into community consciousness. Silly me. Move on.Ooops. I just bumped up against the manifestation of my vibration from six months ago. Wow! That one has been floating around out there for awhile. Thank heavens I'm not thinking those thoughts anymore. Silly me. Move on.Wow! That was random. The only thing that matters is how I react to it. Move on!I'm not the kind of person who has problems, so either this isn't a problem or it's not my problem. I've probably created a blessing in disguise. Yea for me. Move on!

Lisa Hayes is an LOA Relationship Coach and Author of How to Escape from Relationship Hell and the Passion Plan. She is also co-founder of Good Vibe Coaching Academy, specializing in LOA Coach training. To get Lisa's FREE Audio, "How to Talk to a Man" Click here

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Quite Often In Order To Get Attention You Need To Put Your Partner First

How many relationships you know of have died merely because one or the other person, or maybe even both, didn't feel as though they were fully understood? How often can we see someone inside a relationship cheat, and when you ask them why it happened, the answer was something near to; "I feel a bond, like he (she) appreciates me."

Way too often.

When you first slip into a relationship, we try very hard to figure out everything we can concerning the other individual. We want to find out what they like to eat, where they want to go, what films they like to watch, all about their hobbies and interests, where they've been, and where they're hoping to go. If we are in a new romantic relationship, we become the biggest, best "job interviewer" there is. We try and discover everything.

Somewhere down the road, we feel we have the whole works figured out. Different things come about that demand our attention, therefore we lose focus. "Daily life" pulls us in distinct directions, education, kids, career, and hobbies all lead to our own personal growth. Regrettably, that growth is often in different directions. The people we used to be isn't who we are now, and this seems to worsen every single day. That person we got to become familiar with when the romance was all new and fresh, they've changed. The changes are very soft and subtle, and the problem is not really that they've changed, but instead that we've failed to notice.

Our first inkling there is a problem is generally one of those instances when one partner returns, to find the other upset, as a result of something that happened, or didn't happen that day. If that happens on the same day when the returning partner also has had a lousy day, you start trading reasons why your day was even worse. With nobody listening, and both people talking, absolutely nothing gets done, nobody feels better. Should this happen too often, then both individuals will start to believe their companion doesn't understand them.

The issue is that we are hoping to get the other person to appreciate us. It's not your fault, it's human instinct. It's the way we are hard-wired.

Even appearing wired to do things this way, you may still solve this; you just have to discover how to start. The answer to dealing with this, and keep things working well in the future, is to do the complete opposite of what you're feeling like doing. What you have to do would be to first figure out the other person. Tune in to what they are saying, and demonstrate to them that you're listening. A person does this by rephrasing what they've said, so that they know you heard them (Try to remember: you are doing this to help repair the thing that is more important to you than everything else, your relationship, leave the jokes and the sarcasm out of it). When you have done this, they may either agree or correct you, in order that you do comprehend. When you listen, and make time to realize what they really want or need, you'll know the direction to go that may help. Here's when the fun stuff starts. Once you make this happen, once they know you have heard and understood them, they are going to make the effort to try and do exactly the same for you. As opposed to a pulling apart, there's a bringing together.

Every time you do this it gets much easier. Ultimately, both you and your partner will stop anticipating a "tug of war" the moment they want to talk to you. With all of that tension which comes from anticipating a battle gone, the talking gets easy.

The alternative, too often, is one or the other partner being unfaithful, or the relationship just falling apart. Then, if you still want to be with that person, you can find yourself being forced to discover ways to survive an affair, or you will have to try and learn how to make up, and restore the relationship. This is certainly so much easier.

It's difficult to admit, sometimes, that we just do not know what to do. What seems to be the perfect thing to try and do seriously isn't, and in fact will only make things even worse. At times like this, it's useful to have a place to visit to learn, to obtain fresh ideas that really work. If you are in any element of this article, then I wish to aim you towards a website. Head to: http://howtowinback.com/

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My Imagination Is More Powerful Than My Doubts

I remember a few years ago driving through this neighborhood, just South of the Capitol, with beautiful historic homes, lovely flower gardens, and tall willowy trees lining the streets, dreaming about living there. I remember it well, because I did it a lot. To say that area was out of my price range was an understatement. It didn't matter to me though. I would drive through those streets three or four times a week and when the weather was nice, it was my favorite place to walk. Did I ever believe I would live in that neighborhood? Hell no.

When BMW first introduced the Mini Cooper, I wanted one so bad I could hardly stand it. I test drove the Mini Cooper so often that I had to drive to dealers in other cities because my local dealer got tired of me taking up sales person's time to take me on test drives. I found a picture of a blond standing next to a shiny new Mini Cooper and put it above my desk. Did I believe I was going to get a Mini Cooper? No. I was upside down in payments on my Hyundia. Was I taking Mini Cooper test drives in an effort to bend the Universe to my will? No. I did it for relief. It felt good. In fact it felt really good to imagine myself driving one of those little cars off the lot.

I spent more than a decade of my life in relationships that tanked. Some of them tanked slowly, just fizzling out. Some of them tanked in grand explosive train wreck fashion. The trail of men through my thirties did not lead me to happily ever after. I had no evidence that Mr. Tall Dark and Handsome would ever show up and stay. None. In fact quite the opposite. However, that did not stop me from fantasizing and fantasize I did, a lot. It gave me a place to escape to.

I had this moment a few days ago when we were finishing a walk around our South Capitol neighborhood, walking past my Mini Cooper, holding hands with Mr. Tall Dark and Handsome, where I realized where I was actually standing. I am living right smack in the middle of those fantasies. This may not be everyone's idea of a fantasy life, but was mine, and now it's my real life deal, in living color.

In Law of Attraction circles there is a lot of emphasis on belief. "You have to believe it to see it", kind of thinking. If you're not getting what you want you have to fight those beliefs that are holding you back into submission, because change depends on it. However, I don't just think, I know for sure belief is overrated. Could I have gotten the things I wanted easier or sooner with belief on board? Probably. But the bottom line is I didn't believe, and it didn't mean I wasn't on track for manifesting the life I wanted.

Imagination is a powerful thing. I was raised an only child. I am the master of playing in my mind. When I'm fantasizing about something I'm not hung up on whether or not I'm going to get it, I'm just basking in the joy of imagining. It's pure fun, for nothing but the fun of it, and that serves me well, because I'm not in resistance. The bigger the dream the more powerful imagining it into reality can be. When I'm imagining something so big I can't figure out how it's ever going to happen, I don't have to get caught up in the "hows" of it or even if it's really possible, because I'm already there in my imagination.

As deliberate creators we all know what this does. As Abraham would say, those are some powerful rockets of desire being launched without resistance. Magic - no belief required. My imagination is more powerful than my doubts or my fears.

Now I'm not saying beliefs aren't important, they are and when they aren't serving us, it's worth examining that. What I am saying is belief is not worth getting hung up on. It's not worth postponing visiting with our dreams just because we haven't wrangled the bad beliefs. Belief isn't the only path to alignment, it's one, and there are many others. So, if one path is blocked, trying another route might just work.

Lisa Hayes is an LOA Relationship Coach and Author of How to Escape from Relationship Hell and the Passion Plan. She is also co-founder of Good Vibe Coaching Academy, specializing in LOA Coach training. To get Lisa's FREE Audio, "How to Talk to a Man" Click here

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