Prepare For The Chase
The original plan for a woman's existence is that she was created to meet the needs of her husband. This means that her role as a wife - was to enrich her husband's life for the better and not for worse.
Unfortunately in our society 'where the idea is that women should have equal rights to men' - women have now become far more proactive than men in their search for their ideal mate. They are constantly on the prowl or lookout for 'Mr. Right', instead of preparing themselves for the chase.
It was God's initial intent for man to seek out his bride. These roles began to change as a result in the shift of equality between man and woman. This is unnatural and inconsistent with the principle of marriage, as men should pursue women and not the other way around. Men were designed to seek, hunt, provide, and protect, but his role has since become diluted and devalued and this works against mans natural instincts.
We are doing ourselves a disservice by meddling with God's perfectly thought out plan for marriage. Let's sit down and ask ourselves what is it that we can do to prepare our hearts for the life commitments we want to make?
The first thing we need to do is to detoxify our spirits from all of the bad and misinformed indoctrination that our culture as accepted as right and equal. Where as a result, women find now themselves emotionally hurt, alone, broken, and having to start all over again. I am not implying that a woman cannot be extremely happy with a man that she sought after, but what I am suggesting is that seeking out a mate comes with risks and potential failure. When a woman is being pursued by a man it not only gives her a self-esteem boost but it is also more exciting.
The beauty of natural and spontaneous order set out by God is that relationships flow naturally without stress, or unnecessary heartache. If you ask God for this strong heroic mate with a heart made of gold, a degree from Yale, a job with a 401k income, a nice starter home for a family of three, and a few mutual funds with a good rate of return, what do you think would happen? I believe that your request would not be impossible or unrealistic, but the question remains... from your list of must-haves, is what portion do you possess?
Well - God is not going to send you a gift that you can't handle, and nor should he. Put yourself in his shoes would he really desire a women with bad credit, a bad attitude, no education, selfishness, can't maintain a home, self-esteem, a heart full of un-forgiveness, and even complains about the air she breathes! Does this really sound like the wife of a man's dreams?
Ask God to wash and cleans your spirit, to modify your ways, heal your heart, forgive you of past failures, give you a sweet attitude, change your outlook on life, and turn your attention and focus over to him. Men are looking for a 'lady' not just a woman; they want the whole enchilada. If you desire to become a helpmate give yourself an internal makeover, it will help you to understand that your thoughts need to be redirected and adjusted so that the 'real you' can come forth. Make some new friends, pick up some new habits, and find a new interest that will help you on your journey.
Sometimes we want to be married because we are afraid of being alone. No woman wants to live a life without having experienced the safety and security of being captured by the strength of a man's love, and the experience of his arms protecting her through the night. However - we need to love ourselves first, have self-control, and enjoy being valued and adored by God, because he knows what's best for us.
If we surrender our will and selfish desires to God he will pour out his blessings on us that we are not worthy to receive. Relax and spend some quality time with yourself, do things that make you happy, go out with like-minded friends that share common interests, go places where you would feel comfortable meeting new people and experience a new flavor. God teaches us that 'It is better to be alone than in the company of fools'. Don't focus your attention on seeking a man, but focus on living and appreciating the extraordinary woman that God ordained you to be.
Remember and tell yourself this every day... You are a beautiful and pure gift that God made in his own image. Start to look at yourself from God's view, and as you grow with God's heart - you will see how you are becoming a more suitable friend and partner for life.
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